Over the past 3 months I learned much more than I learned over 3 years !!
I learned the difference between ‘Work For’, ‘Work With’, ‘Be For’, and ‘Be With’
I learned that to be an effective and authentic leader, I need to be self-aware and acknowledge my fallibility, and be with people who can support me when I fail. And listen to them
I learned a lot about myself
I learned that anyone can be judgmental, controlling, listening-not-really-listening apathetic person, awaiting for praise, and distant (opposite to being present). It’s our personal insecurities that are being projected onto other people when we come to a conclusion.
I learned that conclusion is what we call the state when we’re tired of listening and thinking.
Sometimes listening diagnostically (with the purpose to find a solution) is important, but equally it can be damaging if the situation doesn’t call for it.
I learned that being authentic doesn’t mean being out all the time, they’re not synonyms !!!
Authenticity is all about self-awareness, balanced processing, relational transparency, and ethics and morals.
Think of it as the tree of authenticity ,where the seeds of self-awareness are planted in the earth of ethics and morals, watered by the water of balanced processing, protected by relational transparency.
And what are the fruits of that tree ?? Empathy, having kind eyes, rejecting trait models, and being consistently true to yourself.
I can go on writing pages up on pages on what I think and feel now. But I think I just need to go to sleep.
By the way, I have loads of other pages that I keep on writing privately, because I don’t feel very comfortable sharing such private moments and deep feelings, but may be just may be I’ll start blogging more publicly about being an LGBT+ individual and leader in the workplace and in life in general. And help spread some light.
You don’t light a lamp and put it under a bowl, instead you put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 🙂